"That's not fair!" How do you feel about your needs? Do others agree on which ones are legitimate? This post builds on the previous ones. We're going beyond saying "no" and establishing boundaries. Now we have to ask, "Can I share my needs without feeling selfish?" Here's the wrinkle: if you want something regardless of the consequence to others, that's a moment to evaluate. But what if advocating for your own needs is what allows you to be in the best service to others? Read on to see how Catherine realized she needed to change her approach.

What does it mean to have healthy boundaries? Even if you have them, how do you maintain them? If you struggle to keep your boundaries strong, maybe David's story will help you.

How do you say “no” without feeling guilty? If you’re a recovering and relapsing people-pleaser like me, that ability doesn’t show up overnight. Read on to see what ideas Jill can experiment with to better protect her time, energy, and sanity.

Failure can seem fatal at times, but it is up to you to decide whether or not it is final. True, no one likes disappointing or upsetting others as we grow. And yet, if we look closely enough, the experience that seems so undesirable and painful is actually the very thing that shows us the way forward. Grades are just one sign of failure aversion. Read more to see how Ryan managed to rewrite his story on failure to set himself up for long-term success.