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Lesson 6: How to Advocate for Your Own Needs Without Feeling Selfish
"That's not fair!" How do you feel about your needs? Do others agree on which ones are legitimate? This post builds on the previous ones. We're going beyond saying "no" and establishing boundaries. Now we have to ask, "Can I share my needs without feeling selfish?" Here's the wrinkle: if you want something regardless of the consequence to others, that's a moment to evaluate. But what if advocating for your own needs is what allows you to be in the best service to others? Read on to see how Catherine realized she needed to change her approach.
Lesson 5: Setting Boundaries - How to Push Back and Maintain Self-Respect
What does it mean to have healthy boundaries? Even if you have them, how do you maintain them? If you struggle to keep your boundaries strong, maybe David's story will help you.
Lesson 4: Relearn Effective Communication
Ever try leading with hints? How did that work out for you and your team? If there is a discrepancy between what you say and how others interpret it, learn from Brian’s story as he goes from frustration to clarity.
Lesson 2: Failure Is A Friend, Not A Foe
Failure can seem fatal at times, but it is up to you to decide whether or not it is final. True, no one likes disappointing or upsetting others as we grow. And yet, if we look closely enough, the experience that seems so undesirable and painful is actually the very thing that shows us the way forward. Grades are just one sign of failure aversion. Read more to see how Ryan managed to rewrite his story on failure to set himself up for long-term success.
Blog Post Series: The Top 10 Lessons I Wish I Knew Starting Out as an Asian Leader
Want to boost your effectiveness as a new leader? The first lesson is to embrace self-encouragement. In this post, we explore how Henry learned to stop beating himself up over mistakes early in his leadership journey, going from self-doubt to self-assurance by responding better to his inner critic.
How Jimmy Stopped Being a Victim
Are you dealing with someone who is an expert at making excuses? Jimmy used to. Until he realized what being a victim was costing him. With a little help, this is the story of how he stopped.
The Temptation Every Gig Worker Needs To Avoid
Are you okay trying to get away with doing a subpar job? Here are some friendly and loving reminders why you can’t afford to.
Healthy and Unhealthy Conflict: How to Detect and Approach
All conflicts might feel uncomfortable, but not all conflicts are unhealthy. Being able to discern what kind of conflict you’re experiencing is the first step to determining how to handle it.
Unpaid Endorsement: The Nicholas Gregoriades Podcast
Whether physical or mental, conflict is never pleasant. No matter what that conflict, you can deal with it directly (best), delegate it to someone else (passive), or drop it (passive depending on how you approach). In any case, you have to have an effective belief system in place before you take any kind of action.
Unpaid Endorsement: The Road to Growth Podcast
Entrepreneurship is not easy. It might come easier for some than others, but no one is exempt from the grit, creativity, persistence, and fear waiting for every entrepreneur. In The Road to Growth podcast, Vinnie shares all sorts of stories of entrepreneurs in the middle of the storm, including mine.
Unpaid Endorsement: The Second Mix Podcast
What if you could remix your life? Matthew Bennett shows how you can alter the trajectory of your life if you’re willing to put in the work. This includes improving your approach to conflict. Don’t let the world tell you to settle for a default future - remix it!
Unpaid Endorsement: The Level Up Tribes Podcast
Conflict at work never seems to go away. This is just one more ongoing opportunity to level up your life! Let Agnes Goodwine help you with this challenge and others with episodes from her podcast, Level Up Tribes. You can check out our specific conversation on work conflict here.
Unpaid Endorsement: The Convos With Clay Podcast
Do you wonder why stepping out in faith can’t be easier? Because the action itself reveals a conflict between the comfort you prefer and what you know you need to do to strengthen your faith. The tiebreaker is action. Join me and Clay on his podcast to dig a little deeper in the topic of conflict resolution and faith.
Unpaid Endorsement: The All Ears English Podcast
Learning English is important for anyone who wants to lead across cultures. But the skill means little if you don’t use it to speak up in difficult situations. On our All Ears English podcast episode, join Lindsay and me as we discuss how to navigate conflicts as a global leader.
Unpaid Endorsement: Your Transformation Station Podcast
Want to be an effective leader? First learn how to follow, then assemble teammates with key qualities you know you need in followers who will come through for you. Check out the high-energy conversation Greg Favazza and I have about this topic!
Unpaid Endorsement: Screw the Hierarchy Podcast
Screw the Hierarchy is a podcast Deb Falzoi started to bring awareness to the oppressive systems meant to keep outsiders from disrupting the status quo. Asian-American leaders are no exception.
Unpaid Endorsement: The Coaching Call Podcast with Sifu Rafael
Want to know what coaching can do for you? Check out all the different coaches Sifu Rafael features in his Coaching Call podcast.
Unpaid Endorsement: The Moments With Chrissy Podcast
Season 2 of The Moments with Chrissy Podcast covers all sorts of fun, useful topics like love, relationships, and even advocacy. In our episode, we talk about salsa dancing, good leadership, and overcoming adversity.
Unpaid Endorsement: The Data Leadership Lessons Podcast
In this episode of the Data Leadership Lessons podcast, Anthony and I discuss tips on conflict resolution in several aspects of leadership.
Unpaid Endorsement: The Rialto Marketing Podcast
Tim Fitzpatrick runs Rialto Marketing, which helps business to business companies develop a plan to deliver the right message to the right people. We have a great conversation on how to best handle conflict in personal and professional settings!
John Maxwell once said that a leader without followers is just someone going for a walk. True, no one is obligated to follow you just because you set a good example. So how do we increase our chances of inspiring followers? Let’s unpack Shawn’s example for some ideas.