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Lesson 9: Technical Competence Isn’t Enough
John Maxwell once said that a leader without followers is just someone going for a walk. True, no one is obligated to follow you just because you set a good example. So how do we increase our chances of inspiring followers? Let’s unpack Shawn’s example for some ideas.
Lesson 6: How to Advocate for Your Own Needs Without Feeling Selfish
"That's not fair!" How do you feel about your needs? Do others agree on which ones are legitimate? This post builds on the previous ones. We're going beyond saying "no" and establishing boundaries. Now we have to ask, "Can I share my needs without feeling selfish?" Here's the wrinkle: if you want something regardless of the consequence to others, that's a moment to evaluate. But what if advocating for your own needs is what allows you to be in the best service to others? Read on to see how Catherine realized she needed to change her approach.
Lesson 5: Setting Boundaries - How to Push Back and Maintain Self-Respect
What does it mean to have healthy boundaries? Even if you have them, how do you maintain them? If you struggle to keep your boundaries strong, maybe David's story will help you.
Lesson 4: Relearn Effective Communication
Ever try leading with hints? How did that work out for you and your team? If there is a discrepancy between what you say and how others interpret it, learn from Brian’s story as he goes from frustration to clarity.
Lesson 3: How To Say “No” Without Feeling Guilty
How do you say “no” without feeling guilty? If you’re a recovering and relapsing people-pleaser like me, that ability doesn’t show up overnight. Read on to see what ideas Jill can experiment with to better protect her time, energy, and sanity.
Healthy and Unhealthy Conflict: How to Detect and Approach
All conflicts might feel uncomfortable, but not all conflicts are unhealthy. Being able to discern what kind of conflict you’re experiencing is the first step to determining how to handle it.
Unpaid Endorsement: The Nicholas Gregoriades Podcast
Whether physical or mental, conflict is never pleasant. No matter what that conflict, you can deal with it directly (best), delegate it to someone else (passive), or drop it (passive depending on how you approach). In any case, you have to have an effective belief system in place before you take any kind of action.
Unpaid Endorsement: The Road to Growth Podcast
Entrepreneurship is not easy. It might come easier for some than others, but no one is exempt from the grit, creativity, persistence, and fear waiting for every entrepreneur. In The Road to Growth podcast, Vinnie shares all sorts of stories of entrepreneurs in the middle of the storm, including mine.
Unpaid Endorsement: The Second Mix Podcast
What if you could remix your life? Matthew Bennett shows how you can alter the trajectory of your life if you’re willing to put in the work. This includes improving your approach to conflict. Don’t let the world tell you to settle for a default future - remix it!
Unpaid Endorsement: The Level Up Tribes Podcast
Conflict at work never seems to go away. This is just one more ongoing opportunity to level up your life! Let Agnes Goodwine help you with this challenge and others with episodes from her podcast, Level Up Tribes. You can check out our specific conversation on work conflict here.
Unpaid Endorsement: The All Ears English Podcast
Learning English is important for anyone who wants to lead across cultures. But the skill means little if you don’t use it to speak up in difficult situations. On our All Ears English podcast episode, join Lindsay and me as we discuss how to navigate conflicts as a global leader.
Unpaid Endorsement: Your Transformation Station Podcast
Want to be an effective leader? First learn how to follow, then assemble teammates with key qualities you know you need in followers who will come through for you. Check out the high-energy conversation Greg Favazza and I have about this topic!
Unpaid Endorsement: The Nature Breakthroughs Podcast
In this episode of the Nature Breakthroughs podcast, Dr. Ben Goldman and I discuss the consequences of failed conflict resolution.
Unpaid Endorsement: The Miracle U Podcast
Albert Einstein once said, “You can live like nothing is a miracle or everything is a miracle.” On The Miracle U podcast, Vince Kramer and I discuss the miracles in our lives which lead us to inspire more miracles.
Unpaid Endorsement: The Sex, Drugs, and Jesus Podcast
In order to resolve conflict effectively, you have to start by putting the difficult topics up for discussion to begin with. In my conversation with De’Vannon Hubert on the Sex, Drugs, and Jesus podcast, we discuss church experiences people tend to avoid talking about.
The Top 5 Consequences Of Avoiding Relationship Conflict
Many people don’t think about what avoiding conflict costs them. Learn the top five consequences of staying comfortable and a way to remove your hesitation.
Unpaid Endorsement: The Rialto Marketing Podcast
Tim Fitzpatrick runs Rialto Marketing, which helps business to business companies develop a plan to deliver the right message to the right people. We have a great conversation on how to best handle conflict in personal and professional settings!
What To Do When Someone Is Avoiding A Difficult Conversation With You
Do you find yourself exhausted trying to chase down people when something’s gone wrong? Here are a few tips to increase your chances of resolving the situation.
Unpaid Endorsement: The Inventive Journey Podcast
In this episode of The Inventive Journey, host Devin Miller and I discuss the most common workplace conflicts and how to deal with them. Devin is an intellectual property lawyer who helps startups. If you need a free consult, check out his website!
How Leading On the Dance Floor Helps You Beyond It
Wondering how dancing can improve your leadership skills? Here are some useful principles and tips, even if you never set foot on a dance floor.
Do you realize how much you define your own reality? What are the stories you’re telling yourself? What are the stories you’re telling others? Do you even believe what you’re telling them? The sooner you acknowledge your opportunity to craft a better narrative to live by and knowing how to keep destructive narratives from taking a toll on you or your relationships, the sooner you can start the transformation process. This blog post will show you how.